By Regina Pickett Garson
The last few years have been a time of intense change for me.
Not exactly what I expected in the direction of my carefully plotted life. Nowhere
close. A random choking incident and a month and counting of too many weeks that
started to turn into months back and forth from the hospital, bedridden, living
on various and sundry tubes, changed my world and everything in it. I just
recently saw the third anniversary of the accident. In the last few years, a
whole lot of days that turned into months, I did not honestly expect to see
another day, much less the three year anniversary from the accident. It sure
leaves one with a lot to think about. Reevaluating. Counting blessings. Thinking
about the detours, the paths of my life.
One thing that hasn’t changed is that I still publish MagicStream. I started it in 1994–95, not sure of the exact start date, but at any
rate, it’s been online right at twenty years now. It could be it is time for a
celebration for that too, or something.
When I first started Magic Stream, I am not sure I knew exactly
what it was supposed to be. The Internet was just starting to move into the
area of what would come to be known as the World Wide Web, home pages were new
back then. The way it was presented to me, the Internet was going to be a place
where everyday people could publish and even compete with the big publishing
companies. Looking at it from that perspective, I did a whole lot of thinking;
what would I publish if I could publish anything I wanted.
Back then, to get anything published, get started as a
writer, you sent submission after blind submission. Likely as not, you also collected
stacks of rejection slips. Some writers seem to gloat on how many rejection
slips they have collected over the years, such as that never quite appealed to
me though. I wanted to publish, not just “be” a writer, I wanted to be involved
in whatever and any way I could in the publishing and media industry.
One thing that stuck in my mind. At that point, back then,
when I first learned of what would soon be the World Wide Web, it maybe seems
insignificant now, but back then it was a very big deal and that was the fact
that information wasn’t so easily available like it is today. There is a very
real reason this age we live in is called the information age.
Anyway, somewhere in that time, I had been to the doc and
given a diagnosis, which we all do sooner or later. That was definitely my turn,
long story short, PTSD, that would be post traumatic stress disorder, and a
doozey of a case, probably an understatement on the diagnosis, but that’s
enough on how crazy I am. The thing is, it is treatable, not to be confused
with 100% curable, but I did get help. And if I have a problem, I try to stay
on top of things. Really upsets me to realize all these homeless veterans
suffering from PTSD, when it really is treatable. Getting the treatment you
need is another story though. Coming back from war without the support and
treatment they need is another story still. Get me going on that.
Anyway, at the time, I was overwhelmed with trying to find
out what was going on with me. I’d go to the doc, okay, I’d go to the shrink,
and he’d go yada yada, and the next shrink would go yada yada, “Leave it to us.
Don’t worry your pretty little head.” And I’d head off to the library trying to
find information on what I was dealing with. If you have ever taken a nose
dive, and a detour to Flashback City, tried to find your way back out and you
know exactly what I mean. Somebody saying, “Trust me, don’t worry your pretty
little head,” doesn’t cut it. By the way, “never trust anybody who says trust me.”
You can quote me on that.
Long story short, I’d spend hours at the library and never
seemed to get very far. Part of the problem really was most likely the state of
mind that I was in while I was looking for the information, which wasn’t
wonderful. Don’t ask me how I made it through it all, including finding my way
back out of Flashback City, but I did.
With those considerations, given the notion that I could
publish anything I wanted, I thought about that time of frustration in finding
information on mental health issues. And that was really only part of what I
was dealing with at the time. We all have to deal with something though. Mine just
happened to be the PTSD. That is a reality of life. And life does go on, but what
could I do to make things better in the meantime. Make no mistake, for just
about every diagnosis you can get, there is something you can do on the self-help
level as well. Maybe not a cure, but there is always some little something that
you can do to make yourself more comfortable, make things better and more
bearable along the way.
Given the possibilities of the World Wide Web, I wanted to
do something along the lines of self-help information resources, and making it
easier to find everyday medical information, focus on mental health information.
At the time, I did not have a clue what I was dealing with or where to start. I
remembered vividly my own lapse into PTSD, the journeys through Flashback City.
The hours spent in the library, never seeming to get much of anywhere. Wanting
more information about what was going on with me and not being able to find it.
Thinking hard about that time, when I realized the implications of what was
coming with the World Wide Web, I decided that what I would like to do was
publish a self-help and wellness information resource that focused mostly on
mental health issues, helping people to connect and find the related
information they needed, also the physical, and the spiritual, because in some
kind of way, it is all related. Mind – body – spirit. You really do need it
all.
This got long for a short little blog post about a calling.
Over the years, I had a lot of ideas that came and went with the changing times
of the Internet. Magic Stream was among the earliest, probably first dozen or
so, self-help and wellness sites on the Internet. And being as it is still up,
it is now one of the oldest continuously published, still up and running,
self-help sites on the Internet. Through thick and thin, good times and bad,
I’ve managed to keep it online.
There were times when I honestly thought about shutting it
down, but at the end of the day, how do you build a mission and close the doors
while people are standing there. When all was said and done, it really is a
mission, always has been, and a mission to which I have devoted much of my life.
And how do you build a mission, and close the doors while people are still
coming there for help.
In my mind, and the way I’ve tried to live my life, it’s
like crossing a bridge, it was a rough journey, the paths of my life, but if
you look back and there is somebody behind you that all they need is a steady
hand to get across, how can you not take one little moment to reach back. I
always felt like in some kind of way, we should all do some little part to give
back to the community as we are able. Magic Stream was my giving back. And so
it continued. It was never anything grand, never the highest traffic site on
the net, just a place where people went for mostly mental health and wellness
information, to find what they needed to get on with their life. Sometimes
teachers and counselors go there for information as well.
I never did make a lot of noise about it. There is something
about mental health issues, people really aren’t into a lot of noise on that. We
all have our little red wagon as they say, but blasting it all on a loud
speaker is another matter. And I had no inclination toward being a professional
patient. And we all know some of those. But I kept Magic Stream going, published
it, maintained the site, and wrote the code. I have published a whole lot of
really awesome people along the way, no way was it ever a one person project, never
has been. I am really humbled at the caliber of people who have shared their
writing, their own journey, and their stories on Magic Stream.
I’ve thought much at different times about where to go with
it, and like others who work for a living, have often found myself severely
limited in what I could realistically get done with it, especially after the
accident. Talk about slow. Nonetheless, sometimes absolutely despite myself, Magic
Stream is still there.
Funny thing is. I don’t know how as I got on this, what a
rambling circle. I don’t generally talk a lot about Magic Stream, even to
people I am around a lot. Some people have worked with me for years and never
heard me say a thing about it, other than maybe passing mention of some kind of
web publishing, they didn’t have a clue how I would know such. And I know I got
some raised eyebrows over the years when in the middle of some meeting or something,
some web issue or question would come up and I would have much feedback and
people would be rolling their eyes, like where is this coming from and what
does she know about the Internet, twenty some years’ worth of publishing actually.
I was never much into that part about blowing one’s horn
though, could be that has been one of the big mistakes of my life. Could be I
wouldn’t do that much different if I had it to do again. I’ve been building web
pages since you pretty much had to write your own code, I still mostly do, old
fashioned like that. Anyway, it is something I have always done on the side of
whatever else I was doing. Folks who know me, and the site, also know there is
a spiritual side of it all, it has always been there as well. Funny how things
happen.
Lately it seems that things spiritual and ministerial have
been on the brain and popping up here and there in various ways. Others have mentioned
ministry related issues as well. Spiritual outreach very similar to what I have
been doing with Magic Stream all these years. The mission has been open for a
very long time, twenty years, and counting. It really is a mission, never was
much of anything else. Could be I went about it in from a completely odd
direction, bass ackards as they say, but the minute it was in my head, I knew
it was right.
I went ahead with a Universal Life Church ordination. Nobody
wants to get married, that I know about, but I can do it too. It is a non-denominational
type ordination, although the term would seem to mean no denomination at all,
from my perspective it is an inclusiveness thing. Magic Stream is very much
about spiritual inclusiveness. Anyway, it is true that some people use the
Universal Life Church ordination route for ceremonial purposes, to be licensed
to perform weddings and such. I am not looking for a church or a congregation
either, but the Magic Stream mission has had its doors open for the last twenty
years. It is non-denominational in philosophy, not to be confused with lacking
in spirituality or religious values. It is very much welcoming of religious
diversity, especially the healing aspects. And interestingly, some of the
earliest things I published were written by ministers.
It is the same old Magic Stream, but going into the ministry
will allow me to extend some of the resources in various off line ways, into
the community, and lend the resources I have already developed and sitting
there to support various other of the causes and efforts that I already believe
in for the common good.
After publishing Magic Stream for all these years, I
actually have significant background and self-help type resources to pull from.
It is way past time for a ministerial type, more spiritually focused presence at
Magic Stream. And no I am not quitting my day job, nothing much is changing on
the day-to-day, just a different direction for what I have been doing all these
years.
Growing up as a preacher’s daughter, over the years, I
remember when various stood up in church and said that they had “been called.” Called
to the ministry that is. One doesn’t however always talk about everything they
do. Could be I was called the day I decided to build the Magic Stream website.
However, such that it is, the non-denominational ministerial ordination route, lends
me to move in a new direction with some of the Magic Stream resources, more
focus on the spiritual aspects of healing, which after dealing with my own
especially, I really do feel is so important. I also think is very much needed
in the world today, and timely, and coincidentally in the process, I am already ordained.
My mission is the same as it has been for the last twenty
years. It won’t be over night, there is however going to be a change in the
spirit at Magic Stream. This is after much consideration as to how I would
commemorate the twenty year mark of Magic Stream. Coincidentally, I can also
perform weddings, and funerals, and various such, licensed to do everything
that goes with it, which I have actually done in some capacity for many years,
I just used to be the piano player. Namaste, Amen and blessings to all.